Saturday, March 12, 2011
Friday, March 11, 2011
Till Death Do Us Part or "Please Sir May I Have Another"
What's the definition of love? The literal definition is: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. When two people in love choose to marry they promise to love, honor and cherish. Now the question is why does loving someone truly make it mandatory to exclusively love that person. Why does society deem it the rule of law that a couple in love must be monogamous. The question is why? Why do people choose a monogamous relationship? Could it be due to Spiritual Beliefs? The fact it's supposedly a sin to NOT be with strictly one person? A fear of sexually transmitted diseases? Is it truly wrong for two consenting adults in a commited relationship to decide that, though in love, they may have needs that cannot be totally fulfilled with strictly one person. If society could just look beyond the guilt factor laid on them their entire lives and actually peek into human biology, anthropology and sociology, the monogamous human appears as a very weird notion.
We are mammals, and if we look to the mammalian world, just 3 to 5% of the about 5,000 species of mammals form lifelong, monogamous bonds - this is the case of beavers, wolves, gibbons, jackals, foxes, some bats, dwarf deer and antelopes(yes it helps to be married to a biologist). Most biologists say that strictly sexually monogamous species are almost non existent. Most mammals have just a social monogamy: they pair up to mate and raise offspring, but still have flings.
Our closest relatives in nature, the monkeys have basically two type of mating systems: harems of females (polygamy), in which one male only mates with the females of the group (like in gelada monkeys, colobus monkeys or proboscis monkeys) or a promiscuous system, in which all the females mate with all the males (like in many macaques), as the males form coalitions (they do not compete or fight inside the group,
except for the hierarchy-establishing conflicts.
Why is it such a dirty little secret if a couple decides they may want to be swingers, or in some cases fully polyamorous. If people are able to break through the veil of guilt heaped upon us by our churches, parents or even society itself and realize that they can enjoy, and in some cases thrive from, sexual and even personal relationships is it really such a bad thing.
If we truly take into consideration the true nature of humankind can we really say if monogamy is really what mankind is truly meant for?
We are mammals, and if we look to the mammalian world, just 3 to 5% of the about 5,000 species of mammals form lifelong, monogamous bonds - this is the case of beavers, wolves, gibbons, jackals, foxes, some bats, dwarf deer and antelopes(yes it helps to be married to a biologist). Most biologists say that strictly sexually monogamous species are almost non existent. Most mammals have just a social monogamy: they pair up to mate and raise offspring, but still have flings.
Our closest relatives in nature, the monkeys have basically two type of mating systems: harems of females (polygamy), in which one male only mates with the females of the group (like in gelada monkeys, colobus monkeys or proboscis monkeys) or a promiscuous system, in which all the females mate with all the males (like in many macaques), as the males form coalitions (they do not compete or fight inside the group,
except for the hierarchy-establishing conflicts.
Why is it such a dirty little secret if a couple decides they may want to be swingers, or in some cases fully polyamorous. If people are able to break through the veil of guilt heaped upon us by our churches, parents or even society itself and realize that they can enjoy, and in some cases thrive from, sexual and even personal relationships is it really such a bad thing.
If we truly take into consideration the true nature of humankind can we really say if monogamy is really what mankind is truly meant for?
The Good Old Days?
It is easy for anyone with a sense of history and memories of a gentler time to think fondly of a return to the good old days. What exactly did the good old days really entail? Our sunny ideas may illuminate the good things, but there were bad things as well. Let’s look at things 50 years ago. Though you may have the romantic idea that the world was full of Ward and June Cleavers and gasoline went for cents per gallon, the reality is that racism and lynching were rampant. Automobiles were unsafe with hard metal dash boards and no seat belts. Politics were corrupt and the news media rarely brought things to the surface. Music was available only on radio, reel to reel tape or vinyl. Electronic equipment used vacuum tubes that needed to be replaced from time to time. People's lives were ruined on the simple basis of someone saying "He/she's a Communist"
It's human nature for all of us to sooner or later turn into our parents and wax poetic about how the way things were when we were young but is it really true when not looked at through rose colored glasses? If you ask me, I'll take my cell phone, internet, microwave oven and 50 inch tv I can pick up with one hand.
Just because times were simpler doesnt truly make them better.
It is easy for anyone with a sense of history and memories of a gentler time to think fondly of a return to the good old days. What exactly did the good old days really entail? Our sunny ideas may illuminate the good things, but there were bad things as well. Let’s look at things 50 years ago. Though you may have the romantic idea that the world was full of Ward and June Cleavers and gasoline went for cents per gallon, the reality is that racism and lynching were rampant. Automobiles were unsafe with hard metal dash boards and no seat belts. Politics were corrupt and the news media rarely brought things to the surface. Music was available only on radio, reel to reel tape or vinyl. Electronic equipment used vacuum tubes that needed to be replaced from time to time. People's lives were ruined on the simple basis of someone saying "He/she's a Communist"
Thursday, March 10, 2011
To All Things A Beginning
Has an event ever happened in your life that has made you want to scream and shout? Have you ever had a random thought pop into your head that you really, really want to say out loud for all to hear? Have you sometimes seen or heard something and quite simply said WHAT THE F**K!!!! I'm sure we all have. Well, in essence, that's what this blog is all about. Random thoughts put into words for all to read. A place where people can come and hopefully read something that just may cause them to think. A place to come to hopefully make you laugh or cry. A place where you may occasionally just come and say WHAT THE F**K!!! No stones will be unturned. No topics will be avoided. No fights will be unfought. Unfettered, unedited,unapologetic and for damn sure Politically Incorrect. Welcome to my world and feel free to agree, disagree, hate or love. My mind is now becoming an open book, Maker help us all.
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